Since this girl is in a new relationship and since her submission has significantly changed (in her own eyes). She has decided to revisit the 30 days of submission she completed in 2012/13. Since this whole things takes an age doing it one day at a time, she will complete these in batches.
1) Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?
This relationship is based on Dominance and submission. This girl pretty much submitted to Sir on the first day they met for real. There seems to be something about the things He says to her and the way He says them that have a significant effect. Having said that, she is also desperate to submit.
This girl is at a place in her life where she needs to change some things. She needs to find someone to be properly submissive to. This is not about what happens in the bedroom. It isn't even about BDSM per say, but it is about her need to submit and submit to the right man.
This girl suspects she is slave material, but reserves judgement since the experiences she is having now are so new. The extent to which she can and will submit are unknown. Sir is also wondering about this and since He already has a slave, perhaps He won't be the Man she is slave to. This girl doesn't know and for now doesn't particularly care.
2) Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
Submission for this girl is developing into something that happens more within daily life than before. In the past submission was definitely part of a scene or getting ready for one. Increasingly this girl is handing over more control of herself to Sir, those areas of life where in reality she doesn't need or desire it. This girl sees that more and more she will not make decisions that are important without discussing them with Him and ultimately seeking and receiving his permission to take a particular route. Increasing this is becoming a need rather than a desire.
3) How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission?
Over the past 2 years, this girl has learned to recognise that the feelings she has had about herself for her whole life amount to a submissive personality. She seeks always to put others before herself, she seeks to please, she seeks to belong to be treasured, owned even. For many years this girl's life was contradictory, on one hand she did everything for her family, doing pretty much all of the domestic chores including decorating and the garden, providing care for her son, being there and doing as much as possible for the wider family. At family events, this girl was not the one sitting chatting, rather she was in the kitchen, helping with the barbecue, filling peoples glasses, taking the children to the park....
On the other hand, because her husband often couldn't make decisions, this girl usually made them on behalf of them both. Where and when to go on holiday, booking tickets, arranging nights out. Meanwhile he would complain about those decisions, despite not being willing to take any responsibility himself.
This girl now knows that this is not the path she desires to take any more. She needs to give up control in order to find a deeper happiness within.
Submission for this girl now puts her into a peaceful and happy state. By completely releasing herself to the care of her Master, this girl is able to do anything He wishes her to but without her now feeling that she is some kind of door mat for doing so. She loves to be used by Him for His needs and She needs to feel his control over everything she does. Only then does she feel that inner peace and deeper personal satisfaction.
4) Do you switch into a dominant role at any time?
This girl would say that any sign of dominance this girl ever had is fast receding even in the work and family situation. Yes this girl can be assertive, she can and does take charge of situations. But increasingly she finds she can do what she needs and still feel her own submission. Increasingly she is letting others take the lead, perhaps without them even realising anything has changed. To do this, she has made a conscious effort and has been able to do so with Sir's help and support. As far as this girl can see dominance will have no part in her future role in life.
If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over?
That is not this girl's current role but in future who knows? However this girl would always want control of her own finances and the ability to choose (with consultation and agreement) who she were friends etc with.
Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?
This girl can't imagine being a 'switch'. It is highly likely that from time to time she could be accused of being 'bratty' or even attempting to 'bottom from the top' but often that is because of some frustration coming through. No this girl's Master is in charge and she knows it!
5) Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?
As everyone who has read this blog for longer than a few days will know, this is the second D/s relationship this girl has been in. What is more this is very different. S started this girl on her path to submission and helped her see who and what she was. He gave her a taste for humiliation and for masochism, he helped her begin to see where her journey might take her. But that was not the right relationship for either of them (difficult as that realisation was for this girl at the time He ended things). The relationship with Sir is about much more than the bedroom than the one with S was. When this girl plays with Sir, it is also very different. Sir has an amazing array of toys. What is more, He knows how to use them. This girl finds it increasingly easy to find her submission and to find subspace during those sessions. Finally, this girl feels submissive during her whole life now, not just when she is in bed or playing with a dominant and that is very very different.
No comments:
Post a Comment