The second part of my revisit of the 30 days of submission, which I first looked at in 2012/13
6) What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or something else?
This girl had no idea that not everyone has the desire to provide service to people - to do things for them, to make sure they are comfortable and have what they need. To nurture and care. She did this at home for her brothers, particularly the younger of the two and in turn they let her do as much as possible for them. This girl's mother was only too pleased to encourage her daughter to do as many chores as she wanted, especially in the school holidays. At times ok, she was bossy, but who wouldn't be with two younger brothers? Later she sought to care for her husband, she willingly took on all of the housework and loved to cook and clean for them both. Gradually though, with a small child and a full time job, it all became too much. He and others around her took her for granted. Now, her family just assume that if they call she will be there. There is a assumption that this girl will run around after everyone, to an extent this goodwill has been abused.
Now though this girl would like to think about serving another in a different way. She wants to care for herself and perhaps for Sir (not necessarily in the way described above, though nothing is beyond what she would do), but through her submission. She wants to feel that he approves of the things she does for herself and others and that also she knows when to say no. She loves the feeling that Sir appreciates it when the girl cooks for Sir, for example. But knows that he is pleased when she does the things at home and work she needs to do. While this isn't taken for granted or expected, he sees this as a way she can serve him. She has also learned that she wishes to submit sexually to him, she wishes to feel his control and she wishes to know he is pleased with her. She loves to hear him tell she is a 'good girl' and that she is 'pleasing'.
7) Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it
This girl is learning to do things in the way Sir wants them to be done and to do things that she knows will please him. So far there has been little in the way of overt discipline or punishment. Sir and this girl have discussed punishment and he is of the view that it is difficult to punish this girl easily given that some of the punishments that could be administered might be enjoyed. He feels ignoring girl and not giving her attention could be an answer, but so far this has not happened.
8) Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?
This girl had little experience of spanking before she came into this relationship. S though really introduced it, using his hand, the riding crop and even once or twice a belt. S though is no sadist and preferred other approaches.
This girl is in the very early stages of her training when it comes to spanking. Sir has used a number of implements on her and she has received a spanking from His hand. This girl has much more to learn and Sir has much more to give to His girl when it comes to spanking. This girl looks forward to such education.
9) Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them?
So far there are few rules. But this girl is expecting the structure and rules to increase very soon. Sir, or Master as He is becoming, knows that this girl needs much more structure in her life so that she can focus more effectively on what she needs to do and Who she does it for. This girl craves this change in her life and will embrace whatever her Master wants to introduce in this context. This girl is ready.
As for limits. This girl and her Master pretty much know what her limits are currently and He is busy pushing them.
10) Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)?
When Sir plays with this girl there is much more to what they do than submission and Dominance. This girl loves to be restrained, she particularly likes the spreader bar. She also likes to be gagged and blindfolded. Restraint relaxes this girl and helps her find her submission more quickly. This girl is also beginning to love the effect of the violet wand. She is finding her inner pain slut something she never really knew was there.
In fact there is very little, if anything that this girl can say she hasn't enjoyed so far (though at the time she would never, never admit such a thing. Especially when it comes to that nasty zipper!