Tuesday, 1 April 2014

On being the 'other' woman

This relationship is complicated by another person. He has another relationship, one of Master / slave. She in turn is in another relationship, D/s or M/s, it is quite hard to fathom out which since what is said and written are at odds.

There are plans for He and she to be together, for her to move here to the UK later this year, maybe next.

This was all known when Sir and i embarked on this thing. Everyone knew of everyone else. i chatted to her and all seemed well.

But all is not well.

She feels under threat, she feels my relationship with Him is affecting hers with Him. She likes the idea of a poly relationship, but only on her terms. I am not sure I am the person she wants as part of that.

I am a person who wears her heart on her sleeve. When I am happy, the world hears about it. My tongue becomes a little on the loose side as my chatty nature runs away with me. Nothing I have said to her has been said with any malice. Everything I have said is true to the best of my belief.

Now though I can see my words will be twisted and already to her they form a threat.

But actually her fears have nothing to do with me. They are to do with her own insecurities and her own uncertainty about their relationship. I don't know if she has any reason to be uncertain, since He and i don't discuss such things (it is none of my business anyway).

But her anxieties and fears spread to me. They fill me with doubt just when I am truly happy for the first time in a very very long time.

That makes me very sad.

I have told Graeme that I will write things on here that are important. I know He will read it. These are the reasons I have written this.


  1. Joolz, that has got to be hard. You know your place. You are confident in it.

    This may sound harsh, but it isn't your job to squash her fears, her anxieties, and her insecurities. That is His job, as her Master.

    You have spent a lifetime putting your happiness on the backseat. This is not something you can fix. The agreement is between Him and her.

    It's time for you to enjoy what life has given you. For you to endure this stepping stone. To grow in ways both sexually and non sexually. Hugs.

  2. Thanks His slut, of course i know that it is His job to deal with her problems, and of course he is doing so. But making sure i don't get caught up in the crossfire is less easy to do. i am definitely going to be concentrating on the things i can control and influence from now on. :)