Friday 9 November 2012

Love Our Lurkers

Since this is my first year of blogging around these parts it is my first Love Our Lurkers day. This is a day dedicated to those people who visit a blog but who rarely, if ever comment on that blog. Most of us began that way, exploring what might be a new area of interest, gaining the knowledge of life experiences from those living this lifestyle. Often they seem like places where the people who comment and get involved are the same people, close friends, a clique even. But once you get the nerve to write your name (which of course doesn't need to be your real one) and a short (or long) message, you find that everyone is very welcoming. The great thing about D/s bloggers is just how friendly they are. Pretty much without fail they give individual replies to those who leave a comment on their blogs. You also find that while people read each others blog and chat like friends, in most cases they don't actually know each other in real life. It is like a coffee shop where people meet for a coffee (maybe cake) and a chat, and then people go off on their way. Observers (lurkers) think they are close friends, but this is actually the only place they know each other from. And that's the way they like it.

I know quite a few of you who visit this place visit reasonably frequently. I actually know who some of my lurkers are as they communicate with me in other ways (email or through fetlife). Everyone is very welcome to leave me a comment, I will welcome you with open arms. Who knows I may even have the coffee on.....






I have to admit that I am not feeling all that engaged with things D/s this week. Sir has been a bit off colour after a minor 'procedure' and I am having work related stuff going on. This has meant the few chats we have had since last Saturday have been pretty ordinary nay vanilla in context and form. Not that this is a bad thing in itself, but it is just that it feels there is little to write here. I am spending time reading the blogs of others, sometimes lurking (of course we all still do it) and sometimes commenting. I often read the blogs of others to get inspiration, particularly at times like this when I don't have any exciting real life events to report and need some ideas to get me going. I get the feeling I am going to need some of those ideas in the coming weeks or else this will be a dull place where people won't even lurk, much less comment.

I do have some good old ordinary vanillaesque (new word people) weekend to look forward to. My college boy son is granting us a visit after 2 months in the world of books and whatever else they get up to. Hubby and I are off out for a night out tomorrow with some good friends and on Sunday I have my folks visiting for a good old fashioned Sunday Roast. None of these things are in any way kinky, but I know I will enjoy them and they will be fun. I can't ask more than that right now.

19 comments:

  1. Oh happy LOL day dearie! Its my first too! And i lurk here all the time. Heh. Altho i do try n comment. I wanna say thanks for coming around to our place too!

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    1. You are of course always welcome! Thanks for calling by today xx

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  2. Hi

    Happy LOL 7 day! I'm a regular visitor to your blog, and always enjoy your posts. The coffee and goodies look scrumptious!

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Hi Hermione, great to see you here. A agree about the coffee and pastries - could do with those right now!

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  3. Happy LOL day. And hope some of your lurkers say hello.

    FD

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  4. I may have not lurked here once - not sure. But I'll de-lurk for today! :)

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  5. Happy LOL day, I read here regularly, post occasionally. We all have 'vanilla' periods, keep posting!
    hugs abby

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    1. Hi abby, thanks for calling by and yes I will xx

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  6. I am a loyal stalker! Love your blog :)

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  7. Have a great first LOL Day.

    Prefectdt

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  8. Oh Joolz - I don't know how I missed commenting yesterday. I love your blog and can relate to so much that you say. Thanks for letting us in :)

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  9. Happy LOL Day!

    :)
    ~Todd and Suzy

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